I totally get the detaching now, anotherstander. It's so hard for me to try not to figure him out but now that I'm backing off and focusing on my life and getting on track it's nice to have evenings where I relax a bit more instead of wondering what he's going through.

We had a little family party for our son and he came over with smiles and a pleasant attitude and even asked to take some of the cake I made back with him and I didn't think too hard into it. He had some thoughtful looks and was a bit quiet but I focused on my boy and the good time I was having with him as he opened his gifts.

It's sooooo hard for me to detach but I'm doing it finally. smile I've put a ton of resumes and applications out there for work and it feels good to think more about me now.


Together for 13 years, married for 8.
H is 46
I'm 40
S is 6
Bombdrop in April 2018
Still in limbo as of 2019