Continue to distance yourself and detach from his behavior and remarks as much as you can. When he senses you pulling away, he will either be nice or get a bit nasty to rope you back into being right where he left you. No one should be a Plan B. You are the prize and he needs to see that you are not going to be waiting around for him to make a decision, i.e., that you are the prize and Plan A.
Please try to remember that words are just words. Actions speak louder than words. He can tell you all sorts of things, but unless he's ready to work on the marriage and return under your roof as your husband, then the words mean absolutely nothing right now. Also, try to remember, this is all about him and what he thinks he's missing out there in the world. It's not your job to make him happy, therefore, he fired you as his wife at the moment. You can't control/fix him...he has to do that.
Take time to read the thread entitled, "Distancer and Pursuer. It will give you some insight as to how they will attempt to rope you back into the dance of uncertainty.
Stay strong...we are here for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
