She said you have to trust her? The whole point is you CAN'T trust her right now. She needs to EARN your trust. That means, as you said, 100% full transparency. Not negotiable. If she doesn't agree to that then there is no recon until she decides she WILL agree to that.
THIS ^^^^^
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712