ED, thank you! I have definitely let him back very easily in the past. I dont think he is trying to come back right now honestly, but I do think he wants me to WANT him to and give him more in my responses and im not. Im not reciprocating his feelings. For the first time ever I asked if we could sit on this and I could have time. Not time to decide anything, because he isnt saying "I want to work on our marriage". But just time for me to sit with all the things he just said and keep moving forward.

He has OW, I know this. And I know he wants time to nurture that and keep me as his plan B. That is what he is trying to do. And I am hoping that by me saying "Im letting you go." and that I want to time to think about myself, that he sees im now doing this for me.

he responded saying "I need time too"....OKKKKK. Of course you do. Cake eating. I will stay the course, but it does feel good to have him saying he isnt ready to move on from me and he isnt over me. Im sure it could be a lie, but it felt nice in the moment.