Things didn't go to plan this weekend unfortunately. My hope of 2x in one week was a little optimistic I guess. Next Friday she is going to her Mum’s for the week so I’m in for a longish wait ‘till next time although it gives me a chance to read some more of PM and SSM and recharge myself. I asked her to give me her honest opinion of this once-a-week arrangement and she said, “It’s OK I suppose” which I took to mean, “It’s great! I love it!” I took some time to think about the “p” word (pressure) because it reared it’s ugly head again. I came to the conclusion that what I am giving her (demonstrating my love by shows of affection and desire to ML) surely can’t be the pressure she’s claiming and that the actual pressure is entirely inside her head. I mean, it is not as if I am forcing myself on her or anything like that. I have decided not to hold back (as I have been) if I feel the desire to hug her but to give the hug and let her deal with her own “pressure” demons. Does anyone have any ideas how I might be able to guide her to confront her pressure (given that she won’t read the books etc.)? SD
