AnotherStander posted this to Burned this morning. This is excellent advice about responding to texts. Also, put a rubber band on your wrist and when you have that itch to text/call him, snap it. It will make you focus on the sting rather than the itch to contact him.
Originally Posted by AnotherStander
Burned, yes those are awesome thoughts, you're on the right path! Now moving forward, when she texts you a "good morning" or "just checking on you" or any of the other dozen texts that all WAS's send (it's in their WAS handbook you know) then A) don't reply and B) don't expend a bunch of energy talking about what her message might have meant, what it probably didn't mean, what will happen next, what will happen if nothing happens next, etc. etc. Just let it go Achilles
Edit to add- this comment of hers: "I didn't need anything, just wanted to say hello. Hope you're OK." just absolutely smacks of pity. Almost to the point of making me throw up in my mouth. Like she's soooo worried about poor pitiful you, she wrecked your poor widdle life and now she's throwing you a dog biscuit on the ground to make sure she doesn't need to call the Suicide Hotline for you. Just concentrate on being AWESOME.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
