Thanks everyone, This morning (Sunday) while we were drinking our tea in bed she was beating me up about my off day (Saturday) so I explained that it was because she said she loved me (a rare event) but then felt she had to qualify it with "sometimes" and that had caused me to spend the whole day speculating what she meant. After all you either love someone or you don't. Late in the afternoon I cheered myself up by deciding that what she meant was that she loves me and DESIRES me sometimes. "No" she said "I didn't word it very well. What I actually meant was that I love you, but you annoy me sometimes". The sometimes in question this time was because when I collected D16 and her friends from their Prom I went inside the building to find her then horror (to D16) I actually spoke to the head mistress. This apparently was totally out of order and definitely the most embarassing thing I have ever done! I suppose so but if I hadn't gone in to find her she would have been the last girl out of the building and I would have been waiting in the car for ages. I mentioned to W that I had been reading about hugging and that it has great significance in a relationship. She pressed me to explain so I mentioned the "jolt" when one disengages from the hug and that the person who jolts is the less needy one in the relationship. I could tell that it struck a chord with her by the wry smile on her face (she always jolts after 1 mississippi) so I suggested she read the chapter in PM. She may or may not read it - that's her choice, right? I had a great male bonding morning - I went down to the model flying field and met a few guys I hadn't seen for ages. Flew my model plane and talked about planes and motorbikes for a couple of hours and came home totally refreshed. Now that the weather is nice I will go every weekend. This afternoon I looked at W and decided that it is not the dream I love it is HER - she is gorgeous and I adore her (which is the problem I guess - I'm far too fused). I have come to the conclusion that this Friday "Just do it" is a bit of a flop because it's so easy for her to find plausible excuses and I'm still feeling dreadfully rejected. I think I might suggest that we "Just do it" on Tuesdays as well as Fridays then a "No" doesn't mean a two week gap. I have nothing to lose by asking - what do you think guys? Should I go for it? SD
