I am very bad at mind reading and trying to figure every little thing he says and does.
Well it's like you keep saying, he says and does contradictory things from day to day or even moment to moment. That is what they all do and there is no figuring it out. That's one of the reasons we push people so hard to detach, because the more you try to figure out his crazy actions then the more crazy it makes YOU!
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H is selfish, and doesn't seem to care that he dumped the house, our pets and childcare all on me alone.
He probably does care and it is probably really eating at him, but he will never let you know that. What is going on inside a WAS is usually far different than what you see on the outside.
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He wanted to be soooo happy yet he is not happy and not at peace in his lonely apartment. He says hes fine but everyone can tell how miserable he is. I don't feel bad for him anymore. He's teary eyed and cries when he talks about missing our old times together yet will get a wall up and say hes fine and over everything. He has issues he needs to resolve on his own. I have my son to think about.
Yes that's all probably quite true. He's not happy, but he will act "as if" he's fine. At least he remembers there were good times, a lot of WAS's erase all that from their memory. You are right, he has issues that he needs to resolve, and only he can do that. That's why you give him time and space- so he can make that journey.
