Don't share a lot of details with others. If people ask then just tell them the two of you are going through some difficulties but are working on it. Don't say anything more than that. Some nosy people will of course press for more, just tell them you don't want to talk about it beyond that. Some people mean well and others are just gossips but regardless, anything you tell people WILL get back to your H so it's best not to say anything so he doesn't think you're "rallying the troops" against him. I had a coworker who left his W, she had their minister call him, she called the office and talked to his boss and asked him to intervene, she talked to his family, etc. etc. It all just completely outraged him and made him more resolute than ever that she was crazy and he needed her gone ASAP. THAT is what rallying the troops (whether intentional or not) does to a WAS, it just drives them farther away.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^THIS
Every person you confide in is one more hurdle he will need to get over to come back to the MR. You want to try to clear that path for him if and when he decides that is what he wants.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
