DB / Detach- Will we ever piece it together

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Brief update from phone while traveling. W and I have continued to have open dialogue and conversation. We have talked about time apart with other people. Desires and mistakes we hope not to repeat. Some good sex in there as well. We need to continue to find balance. We both know we moved too fast and she said she can’t help it. I need to be healthy and strong to have boundaries and not be too available. Last night she invited me to sleepover I worked until 9 am done got there at 945. She had made a dessert for us and was in bed. I had to shower we talked a bit burn she wanted to sleep and mentioned separated rooma because of our sleep habits etc. in her mind there is a reason to the madness or things I disagree with. Convo went fine I told her I was going to leave she was surprised and almost seemed hurt. I’m still surprised she reacts like she’s cares so much.

Anyway. I left and explained I had a lot of packing to do. She understood.

Talked to a friend who hasn’t been through it. He mentioned dating during school since we have the time then. MeetIng at restaurant etc or doing activities that involve physical contact without sex. This is coming from the sex therapist /MC we discussed seeing in a couple weeks. He did ballroom dancing with his wife. Neither of us are into dancing but I’d like to think of an activity. We workout but don’t touch during the time at the gym.

I’m going to continue limited contact but be responsive / kind when I’m free this weekend. Hope to do a date maybe pick up food and just go eat at a park. Something simple but both of us enjoy being outside.

W has discussed her Om with me and then started asking about Ow. W has issues with guilt says she’d hate but herself if it doesn’t work with us and I lose other W. I said I could see a future with oW but some pieces were missing like physical chemistry W and I have. Ow is kind nice supportive good person etc. she wants kids And to be married soon I’m going to talk to her and tell her I’m no where’s near that place and not ready.

Yes I know W could just want money. We have discussed it and the convo will continue before any payment.

Thanks all!