appreciate the checking in on me! haven't been on here much since my last post. i'd say i'm doing great all things considered. after W switched back to her maiden name, i just let go. that was the straw that broke this camel's back as they say. i had some feelings/conflicts of integrity/moral character about giving up on any possible recon with her, but those passed quickly in light of W's actions. would have just been foolish of me to keep banging my head against the reality of the situation. comes down to i didn't ask for any of this, but the reality is what it is, so i'm just trying to make my new life based on what i want for me and D. the only tough part is still giving up D when i have to. i suspect that will never get easier, but past that once D is back with W i'm totally fine living my newly back again single life. haven't had any tears/cries/pain/prayers to save us in like 3 weeks now. i would like to say it was through some intense reflection, tons of books read, therapy, etc that got me to this point, but nope...as a result of her actions i just gave up/quit/let go and moved on.
D process is still in progress with the attys. i will be happy to get through the details/specifics of that and have it completed. i don't foresee any major issues towards it's completion, there's simply many decisions to be reached, but we have consensus on basically all i believe.
it's funny how as a newbie you read on here about "by then you as an LBS might not want them back" and you think to yourself "yeah, sure i will NEVER get there"...well i got there although i just don't care one way or the other now if she tries to come back. like i say no grand self reflective moment got me there, just had enough...i guess now the only other thing time will show is if the front part of that guidance will come to pass and W tries to come back around. not holding my breath that she will.
i hope all is going along as well as can wished for in your sitch. as i say i've not been on the site in some time, but will hop over and check out in on you. as always my prayers to you and all of the other members going through such a terribly tough part of their life. i really do hope that for all of us going through these painful trials that we all come out the other side the wiser, stronger and happier for it.
