And now, I am starting to feel like this OW may be playing her cards differently. She may be giving him the freedom and he is choosing to be loyal to her in a way and really stop contact with me. Thats how it feels. He is no longer falling apart without me. He is no longer a mess, coming in crying when he sees us. He seems content, he seems ok. And I cant help but feel like its her just giving him the love he needs right now and hes feeling like hes in a really good place.
I of course hope I am wrong. Yes, I would rather him be falling apart without me.
It's not for me to say you're wrong, but you can't know. For all you know, he spends 10 minutes in the car giving himself a pep talk before seeing you, so that he doesn't show how he really feels. Alternate option: you're right. Either way, you can't be 100% certain.
Maybe you're doing what psychologists call "emotional reasoning." You FEAR it, so it becomes real. You focus on evidence that is consistent with your fear, and you downplay evidence that is contrary to what you fear.
The reality is unknown. And "the unknown" is something humans fear very strongly.
H: 35 W: 33 M: 11 T: 13
4/10/18: I discovered A and confronted ("BD1") 6/23/18: I moved out 8/31/18: MC ends ("BD2")
