Thanks for your advice. The team is a feeder team for my son's college path. We pay for tourneys and travel. Coach in return gets experience for his career path of coaching up the ranks.
W and son had gone to a few tourneys by themselves. When I went to a local one, I noticed the body language. I started traveling with W and son and witnessed confirmation of the EA. I started investigating and saw that he did not travel to the tourneys I did not go to but there were phone calls and texts between W, son, and coach.
At another game, I texted wife to see how the son was doing. W took a long time to respond then gave me a short text to the effect he was doing fine. Then I saw a social media post from the coach with a bunch of details of how my son was doing and a picture of my son. I knew her and the coach was communicating. I was livid and texted her where the coach had got the photo. She said she sent it to the coach without apology. We had quite the discussion by text and she said the coach had a lot invested in our son and deserved to know how he was doing. When she returned home, I confronted her about what I have been noticing and my feelings about the coach and her behavior. Then I found about all the money being spent on the team travel and fees. That's when i got the BD.
Me 45 W 40 Step Son16 D 3 1/2 M 7 yrs Sept 1st yrs together 10 Living together 06/18/18 ILYBNILWY 8/21/18 W looking for housing.