Sounds like sh#t started to get real and W freaked out. That seems to be a common theme. The fantasy is bursting a bit and reality is hitting and so the WAS backs down.

However, I don't read anything in what you wrote that indicates that she is anywhere near ready for R. She does not sound remorseful or willing to take responsibility for her actions, she sounds as lost in the fog as always. I would not have any expectations regarding R. Would you really want to be with her in the state she is in? I would think long and hard about that. She doesn't seem to be anywhere near ready to do the hard work of R, nor has she grown as a person. She is basically saying that she will settle for you (for now), and you deserve more than that.

When you talk about the laws regarding dismissing a D, are you implying that you wouldn't necessarily want to dismiss it? Are you considering going through with it?

W 34 Me 42
Married 7 years together 8
0 kids 1 beloved dog
BD 4/6/2018
I moved out 4/7/2018
I moved back in alone 8/05/2018
I file 3/06/2019
D official 5/7/2019