Thanks so much everyone. Blu, I have a question. When you were DBing and living apart for all those months, did you ever start to think he loved OW more than he loved you? That is how I am starting to feel. He didn’t show up tonight to finish the yard. I had a feeling he wouldn’t, he always says things and doesn’t follow through. It isn’t his night with D so it’s not like he skipped that, but I just don’t get why he tells me things like “I’m going to come finish the yard tomorrow” or “I’m going to come get the blanket tomorrow”, but then never do it or acknowledge that he’s not following through.
It just hurts my feelings that he doesn’t care at all. He would rather spend his time with OW than follow through on things for his family. I know I’m not detached bc things like this bother me still. But I took the baby for a walk after work. I ran errands, I wanted to be gone Incase he did show up. I came home, made dinner for the baby, gave her a bath. Then made dinner for myself while trying to hold the baby to calm her down. It’s moments like that when I really hate him. And I still have to reach out to him about the times for tomorrow and I just so don’t want to. I just wish I didn’t have to talk to him right now. He doesn’t deserve my attention in any form. He’s scum to me right now. I can’t believe I still love this man. Sia, I am jealous that you have reached indifference. I am so not there yet.
Blu, my husbands birthday is 2 weeks away and I’ve been wondering how to handle it. I also have a family members wedding the Saturday night a day before his bday, and I’ve been contemplating if i ask him to come with me. But I fear the rejection. Then I think I should ask him to stay home with the baby, but I am afraid he’s going to say he has birthday plans with other people and that’s going to break my heart. I’m taking my time with that one.
I just am starting to really think this OW is becoming his main priority and it’s a hurtful thing to think of. Excited to see IC tomorrow and get that going.
R2c, you’re right about that. At one point a few months ago I saw a glimpse of that, but not anywhere near what it needed to be. And now he doesn’t seem to be headed that direction AT ALL. OW seems far too important
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