I must have stopped DBing a while ago maybe because my heart has started rejecting WH. A few weeks ago was his bday and I didn’t even ask for advice on the forum. He called himself so kids could wish him and I wished then. He had asked to take kids out for dinner so when he came to pick up I wished in person again. No cake no dinner as a family, my Ds don’t know any better and I didn’t want to set false traditions. Sigh , I think I have been learning indifference rather than loving detachment
