When you are first working through a ssm, a schedule is your friend.
A schedule removes excuses and forces both spouses to face associated issues.
A schedule may not be as much fun, but it does get things started. ;-)
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.