Steve, you make a good point. I do think about that, if a friend of mine was going through this I would tell her "success is the best revenge". Be confident, make him miss you, dont be available for him. Things like that. I dont know why when its me in the situation I feel like its so different.
I havent had a good day recently, honestly. I feel so much like its so far gone and no matter what I do he has already forgotten about how great we once were. But I do know if I have any shot its through doing this. And i am dedicated to doing it. And I know I have to do it for MYSELF regardless. I do have good moments in my days. All time spent with D is amazing. But I am not doing great, so that is why I dont say that. I do need to find the positives. Feed the good wolf. I need to work on this in my life as a whole honestly. Looking towards the positives. Not using such negative words, etc.
When I went for a run Monday night I felt much better, and i came home and made the baby dinner, and made myself dinner, and then I bathed her and put her to bed and then did some things for me. Like working on some of my crafts, and doing my night time routine of face wash, exfoliate, moisturize, just some pamper time. Then I folded and put away all the laundry, I just did some things around the house that made me feel good once it was all done. Normal things I used to be able to get done much easier when H lived here, but now he doesnt and so I was leaving every night when he was here, I wasnt able to get anything around the house done. Now with this schedule in place I have Monday Wednesday and Saturday nights at home alone with baby and once i put her down I have some time to myself which is nice.
I know I shouldnt miss a man who is off with OW. He justifies all of it, its almost like he doesnt feel bad because he considers himself unmarried all of a sudden or something, Who knows. He did tell me a few months ago he felt really screwed up and he didnt know why and that maybe its a guilty conscious and he knows he caused all this and he wishes he never entertained another woman, blah blah blah. I dont really know how you say that and then go off and continue living this way, but WS dont make much sense as we all know.
I know I sound negative on here, but its because I feel negative and I dont have anywhere to really vent that. the IC will help. I will try to look more at the positives, it just will feel a little fake when inside im pining for this man thats flipped my life upside down. Once I get out for a run tonight I will feel much better.
I have to reach out to him at some point and make sure he can be here by 5:30 tomorrow because I have to be somewhere, and i kind of hate that I have to reach out. Im going to hold off in case he comes by tonight to do the yard and then I can just ask him then. I dont like to reach out and initiate conversation with him because I just dont want anything to come off as me pursuing him. But i have a planned event tomorrow that I cant be late for.
