I fear I waited too long. That during this time he has lost respect for me and value for me and he has moved on to someone else and and found that maybe someone else is a better fit for him because for this past year he didnt feel happy with me. I know he sees changes in me, he has been open about that. But it doesnt seem to be enough for him to want to put the work in.
Don't get hung up on the timing of when you started DB'ing. The bottom line, is that you are improving yourself now. Just like an education, that can't be taken away from you and you will be better equipment with new skills in all future relationships.
Generally, most LBS that are on these forums have a head start in the self-improvement department over the WAS. Why? Because the LBS are doing the heavy lifting and are motivated to change. Many times people(WAS) leave relationships believing that the other person is the root of the unhappiness. Therefore, they leave with their portable issues into new relationships. That's why the divorce rate for 2nd and 3rd marriages is high.
I'm telling you this, because your H has a long way to go. That is not your concern and is out of your control. You are on your own individual journeys. Take the high road.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
