(((Jlh))) so sorry you are having to go through this. Can you set up strict visitation times with him? It will keep him out of your house and give you some time to run you errands and GAL. I do this with D3 and D 10 months, I know its heart wrenchingly hard but I need some time to get a hold of my lifee too, once I made peace with not having them for a day or two in a week, I was able to run my life better. Also, WH is not welcome anymore in my home, he left it on his own will, he cannot drop in and hang out as he pleases, that is cake eating and I wont have it. Can you have visitation set up such that he picks up your S at scheduled times and drops them off, without having to actually step inside your house? Believe me, that has made a world of difference to me. I dont need the toxicity and negativity around me anymore
He got upset you saw a L? Well I would say that was more scared really, he knows you are standing up for yourself now and that is a fantastic thing. Have you tried mediation? I hear you on not being able to move back to your own state due to custody arrangments, I am from a different country with absolutely no family here but I have no choice in that matter. What I can do though is just make a beautiful life for myself just where I am and so can you.
Go find your happiness and cut WH out of it. At this point D is just an end of the business part of the MR, we both need to see it that way.
