Firstly I must thank Michele for inventing this "Just Do It" concept because it is rescuing my marriage. I know a lot of you are sceptical but listen to this account of a Friday night adventure between a HD(ish) H and his (historically) ND W.
It all starts in the bath when our H is getting all soapy and wondering why - unusually - nothing much is happening in the popup dept. Downstairs W is watching the Jonathan Ross chat show which is the most entertaining late night chat show ever in the UK, the main topic of most interviews being sex. H joins her and they retire to bed after the show.
H tells W that he's not feeling much drive tonight which has a calming effect on W. A conversation ensues where W details the various transgressions H has made over the last week. There were the two emails containing links to relationship sites - "Don't send me any more emails" - "OK". There was the morning where H tried to cuddle W when she was asleep and got upset when rejected - "Don't cuddle me in the mornings" - "er... OK". Then there's constantly bringing up R issues during the middle of the week. "I thought we'd agreed that Friday night is for talking about our relationship" - "...and ML!". "Yes that too" says she.
As she seemed to be laying down boundaries H thought he’d chip in with one of his own. “It would be nice if you could be a little more physical with me. I’m not asking for a bj or anything like that, just it would be nice if you would put your hand on my tummy once in a while” – “I don’t think I could do that”. (Not a “No” though so the seed of thought was sown). D16 then came into the room and a conversation struck up about her boyfriend. Lots of cheek and laughter till D16 went to bed. From out of nowhere H’s HD kicked in and he made a move on W with a lengthy and quite intimate massage that W did not object to. The light went out in D16’s room and H moved down for some close action and soon things were really going well. Perhaps H took her a little too far because when he released contact to manoeuvre for the next phase she said “No, don’t stop” – Now that is horny talk in any language and most unusual and wonderful. Naturally H obliged and sparks flew all over the place after a short time. W was then still very receptive to H and even put her hand on his arm, which doesn’t sound like much, but it’s the first touching contact H has had while ML that he can remember.
The point of this is that there was no rejection from W whatsoever and that is most unusual. Normally, love making follows a lengthy negotiation or battle. It really is most wonderful and my love tank is completely full – I even spent the whole weekend working in the garden my motivation is so high.
SD – looking forward to next Friday