Well you are both right really. WAW is kind of my Plan A in a way...meaning that if I wanted a relationship tomorrow with someone among the ladies in my life...WAW would be my first pick.
However, Mowgli is correct in that because of my DB work on myself all those years she was gone and there was absolutely no contact between us; she is not my end all/be all woman. In fact NO woman ever will be. I only need me.
So yes, I would love to R with WAW, but the whole relationship thing, with any of the women I see...not just WAW, is just not an overall priority in my life right now. Let's not forget Mary, who gets forgotten in all this WAW talk here...that was a serious, long term relationship for me of two years. We lived together. So I'm not necessarily twiddling my thumbs with anxiety rushing to get a girlfriend

That's why I can take WAW or leave WAW. I've said it at least 25 times now because it's the best descriptor of how I feel and I can't say it any clearer...I want WAW, I don't need WAW.

So both of you are correct, it's the difference between me coming home after the R talk the other night and crying myself into blessed unconsciousness (just like I used to when she first left) and coming home after the WAW talk and playing with my kitty for awhile, playing some Madden football, and going to sleep...which is what I really did.

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ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14