Long post ahead.. I need to backtrack to our last text exchange who went down like so: Ex- h made mention about money to D18. So i let him know that i gave D22 her full account as her grad present. A substential amount of money and since she graduated, he no longer had to give me any money for her.
Ex-h: Ok, so why are you telling me this now? Did she buy a car? D22 told me this already that you gave her that money.
Me: No. They are looking into it. I did not know she told you. ( wich now explains why he brought it up to D18)
Ex-h: ... you know you were smart to put money away for them. I thank you for being smart and thinking ahead for them.
Me: ( feeling angry for his lack of responsabilities towards them... unjustified on my part). Ya well.. my priority is on MY FAMILY!!!! For you, i might be just some woman who raises your kids but for them, i am the head of household. I look out for them 24/7 . But i do have to thank you. They would not have the cash if it was not for you. ( under my management ) Good night!!
Ex-h: I try my best
Me: You give everybody just enough to keep them on and have your cake.. No ones feelings matter.. Don' t try... BE AND DO. It should not be a choice. It break my heart...
Ex-h: I broke my own heart leaving the same roof as the kids. Until this day you don't see who you're and are always making others feel like [censored] unless it's your way. I left you and didn't give up on wanting to be a part of their life. I swear had I stayed and tried! I'd probably be dead by now having a heart attack living my life to your standards and doing only what you wanted to do. I had enough of you trying to make me feel like [censored] (my name)
And grow up teaching our kids to hate me! I hear the things you say to them about me which again just proves you're a mean cold hearted ------. Last time D18 got hurt I didn't hear about it unit you guys were done at the hospital leaving. Had to hear it hours later by Son beating around the bush!!! ( refering to her car accident wich he was on speaker phone when the doctor came in the room.. but we did not call?) But you have the nerve to always send messages trying to make me feel like [censored]. But don't tell me about D18 car accident. All of them have phones. So there's no need for you to be messaging me anymore. I'm done hearing your rants.. save it for some one else who's willing to put up with it. I gave you 20 years of my life and even after that you're still and [censored] towards me. So don't bother responding to me just to get your last two cents in. Don't call me nor message me anymore. At all. Kids have my number if they need me. I don't need you hear your [censored] anymore. I don't need to hear your [censored] again. Ever. I hope i'm making myself clear.
Me: Yup... a cheater and abuser will always be a victim... Ask Lyne, ask Kim, ask me..
We all deserve what you do to us all.... Why did you come to my mom' s funeral??.?
Ex-h : One last time. Stop messaging me..
Me: Decide who you want to be... quit trying to blend all of your side life into ours.... do you realise all the dammage that it cause???
Ex-h: Telling you now to f*ck off! Shouldn't have to keep telling you to stop bothering me!!! I don't [censored]'n call or message you to put you down [censored]!! Don't give a [censored] if you share those kind words with the kids...I shouldn't have to tell you to stop bugging me after this long.. I don't need you to tell me I hurt them. I know you idiot!! What you don't see is your self always focusing on others and what they need to fix!!! Too stupid and stubborn to look at your self and fix your self instead of taking it out on others..so leave me alone ( my name)
Me : Mirror.. you sound like you did 12 years ago. So how can we fix [censored]? Or we just keep doing the same old things and expect different results?
The end Since this exchange, ex-h no longer have snapchat wich is where he had contact with the kids.his reason (what he has told the kids).. to many random women sending him nude pics and was creating a problem in his relationship.. ( wowww...lol)
Second: he has changed his personnal phone number to block me access to him.. another wow.. I never had his personnal number nor his e- mail address.. even back through the big D, we had to communicate through his lawyer which was a bonus for us..lol The only access i have is an "on-call" number ( lies but ok) wich we text on. D18 and D22 know this is the only access i have. They shared their analysis of his behavior and they are spot on. D22 has noticed when OW3 is in the picture, ex-h wears his leather jacket and shav his arms.. yup.. i did not share this info with them way back when.. they see it.
This exchange between D18, D22 and me took place last week-end. D18 added that out of the blue, ex-h called her to let "HER?? " know he would still give me money for all 4 of the children for as long as D15 was in school.. She did not know why he told her this. In my opinion, he wants them to beleive he cut the rope with me.
Now Saturday, he texted D22 to ask ME if it was ok for D15 to be alone for the night at home as she did not want to be picked up late.rather wait until morning. She answered for me that it was ok with me since she was working the evening shift and D18 has her location through snap chat. We keep track of her and D15 has been really, really good.
Again, making them both beleive he has cut the rope because i am evil..lol
D22 just purchased her first car!! Woohoo!! ( the reason of my visit..co-sign). While there, i viewed 4 houses and one stood out.. perfect location for D15. The french Catholic school is one block away. Ski club in the neighbourhood. Quiet, new residential developpement away from high traffic yet close to school and still in town.. I dropped in at my bank to have my pre-approved credit tcheck.i should get an answer by the end of the week. Also, the management job opportunity i turned down last year has been sent to me every 2 weeks since. Eventho they have a manager since June, i still get e-mailed .. ??? i' m pretty sure my chances of getting into Sobeys are high.. with a decent wage attached..
Time will tell.. it seem like everything is hinting me to go.. the school, the beautiful house, the job and as of today, offering of a single man looking for someone who loves to explore, hike and travel..lol ( future son-in-law' s co-worker) his co-worker was saying how lucky Son-in-law was to have a wife who loves doing this stuff with him and asked if he knew of someone. My name came up..lol
