Yes, R2R, it's good to have a line memorized, so when WH brings up some BS projection, she can calmly and confidently remind him this was his choice. The poster Starsky used to have the best one liners (or several lines).
The jealousy thing is sort of silly and can distract from the important work of 180s, GAL and detachment. So I know I should be careful when I make posts like that. However, I will add, in my sitch, it drove my H nuts when he thought about what I was doing and if I was dating. There was one night when he had the kids and got an alert at 3 am on his phone that my (our home) front door had open and shut (he had set up our home alarm that way in the past). He was stressing out wondering why. The reality was I had been at a girlfriends house late, took a nap on her couch because I had a few drinks, and that's when I got home. Of course he never knew any of that or asked. But when things like this came up, or I looked nice and was going out, or was making new friends, he felt me slipping away. He was losing me as plan B. This also forced him out of his foggy wayward mindset and showed him his own double standards! It was like a forced mirror in his face. "I am having an A. I left my W for OW. Who am I to worry about what my W is doing!?!" That drove him nuts too. :-)))
So I am not saying you should play games or try and make him jealous intentionally. That was a joke. I am just letting you know that as you find your own way, become confident and awesome, you will simultaneous start to detach. No one can tell you what your H will do or what will happen with him and OW, but in time, it is likely he will notice your changes and be forced to think about it. Plus you are the W and the mother of his child. Hand's down, there is no match, you win. He gets to be the fool that left.
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
