I feel like I have to give everyone else here a 2x4...
It is a successful DBer insomuch that he has done everything he's needed to do to thrive post BD.
He's gone out and GALd and he's living his best life. He's become someone only a fool would leave.
It doesn't matter to him one iota whether or not he and EX reconcile because HE's done the work HE's needed to do to to feel good about where he's at.
SO all the garbage about him "still being plan B" needs to stop. It's very clear to me that she's his "plan B," which is how it should be.
All of us should be careful about stepping back into an R where things clearly were not working without being very sure that our XSO has made some real changes to who they are. We preach living your best life; that's what GAL is.
on another note -and you can tell me if I/m wrong, IT- it really feels like there were ppl on this board who pushed you to confront XW into R talk.
It doesn't matter whether BD was a week ago or 4 years ago, when has bringing up an R talk ever been sound advice? The answer is never, Carol. N-E-V-E-R!
Some of you guys were so thirsty for a success story that you were actually giving advice counter to some very clear DB rules!
You do You, IT. It was working before and it will work again.
