You are mind reading there. Maybe she is in a fog, maybe not, but you certainly don't know, and speculating like that just pushes her further away. Think about what she said to you about being incapable of change - it offended you because you don't think it is true. Isn't she likely to react the same way?
I get what you are saying about conflict avoidance, I certainly struggled with that myself. But at this point I don't see the point in responding. She is trying to provoke a reaction from you and you give it to her, fanning the flames of the conflict. DB principles are all about taking the air out of the conflict by refusing to engage in it, by validating even if you don't agree with the sentiment. Let her rage and act crazy and say whatever crazy things she wants to. You are the lighthouse. I think i would have just let that statement go without any response. It didn't require one.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
