Well that's just it LH...the contradictory advice that we've all talked about throughout this thread. A couple were saying to NOT hang out with her at her place...instead go out and do something. So that's what I did. It blew up in my face.
I don't think it blew up at all, it gave you some great clarity and now you have a course of action! No more hanging on in limbo wondering where things are going. I don't think you knew what you wanted before but at least now you know what you DON'T want- this senseless friendzone corner she's shoved you into.
Originally Posted by ItHurts
Now as far as me having a chance at R, I'm not sure how you think I still have a chance at all. As far as I'm concerned I don't...so I'm done. I just don't see any chance so I don't want to bother with her anymore. I'm not going to ignore her for the very reason you cite, I am just not talking with her at length anymore and certainly not meeting up with her again. I'm sticking a fork in this one because it's done. I'm not wasting another weekend night on her for nothing other than to satisfy her needs. Screw that. So yeah, you or anyone else doesn't have to believe me....but I really am not bothered either way. Either she chases me or she can go whistle dixie. This boy is finished, done LOL!
I'm all for that. Focus your efforts where they will be rewarded! If she chases you later then you can figure out whether to cross that bridge or toss a bomb on it, but until then you just keep doing you.
