When you catch these thoughts controlling you. Imagine a stop sign. Tell the thoughts to stop. Practice this. Everytime you can. Gets easier the more you do it.
How many different "Voice" have conversations in your head? I used to argue with my X wife for hours in my head. Is that real??? It is crazy how our minds can take over.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712