Ovvrnbw, my husband has always struggled with making decisions. I used to make all the decisions because he couldn't decide anything. It seems he can only decide something when there's a temptation as strong as a magnet, such as a beautiful 26 year old woman who makes herself easily available and offers him the opportunity to live wild and free. I struggle with making decisions too because none of my options seem good - if one was better than the others then it'd be easy. It's the same for you and your wife. You both need to make some serious decisions in the near future and it's easier to keep postponing them until you're sure that one option is better than the rest.
I think everyone here on this forum has a lot to learn about decision making processes and how emotions and perceptions can blind us from good decision making. We were all unprepared to be in the situations we're in and we probably made bad decisions that contributed to where we're at now, but we do have the power to change our own trajectories. The emotional attachments we have to our spouses are just so hard to break.
