It Hurts, It's interesting to see the quick change in your mindset. Was it because of comments on this forum or just your own conclusion that this isn't going anywhere? It still seems like a good thing that you and your ex-wife had that talk. It helped you reach this point. It's still nice for the rest of us to hear what can happen years after a divorce. It also really sounds like your ex-wife enjoys your company. You do seem to have the upper hand now. I hope everything goes well from here on!