Yes AS, this is why some people were reminding me awhile back that I'm not dealing with a WAW anymore and that I should stop DBing her. I had a sense from her all along that she was basically in the same place she was 4 years ago. Nothing has changed for her. I'm just bored senseless with her nownamd just don't really want to hang out anymore.
So I'm not going to just vanish, but I am no longer engaging her beyond a sentence or two when she texts. I can't really see her again because as I said above, it occurred to me that my only choices now are hang out with her without going out...which isn't happening...or go out and spend money on her...which isn't happening either. So I have no choice but to avoid lengthy interactions with her. It sounds a bit mean but she's just not worth my time. it's just how I feel.

Of course I'll come back and post whenever there's an interaction with her but it's not going to be lengthy. I'm done with this crap with her...it's just stupid. She had her chance, I laid the chips on the table, and all I got was essentially the same conversation we had 4 years ago when she left. The only awesome difference between then and now is that I'm not bothered by it so intensely as I was then. I have total confidence she needs me in her life...she just needs to learn (apparently the hard way) that if she wants me in her life it's going to be on MY terms, which is the mutual goal of R. I am not accepting anything less anymore. I can seek a relationship elsewhere when I feel like being in one again.
As they say in the homeland...ende finite...I am done with this crap.

Last edited by ItHurts; 09/25/18 04:40 PM. Reason: typo
ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14