IH, glad you got all that out in the open but WOW, I thought she would be past being a WAW but now I'm not so sure. A lot of that sounds like the WAW stuff all over again. So now that you know you are Plan B while she "finds herself", how does that affect your approach with her moving forward? (EDIT- just read your most recent post and you already answered this!)
Just going to nick you on one minor point in the convo:
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As I suspected, she is afraid that all this self improvement she's done would be erased if we reconciled. I told her no, you would simply take that with you...that it isn't either a relationship or your identity. That both can, and should coexist.
Don't respond like this, to her it looks like you are disagreeing with her feelings. Remember to validate. "Yes I can understand why you might feel that way and how it is affecting your outlook on us reconciling."
