My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 4

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Last night my W was at home. We talked. I asked her where she was, she didn't want to say and I think this was b/c she flat out lied to me on Friday (again). I asked her why she was home. She said b/c she lives here. And at that point I brought up that I don't want to share a bed or a home with a liar and cheater. She cried and said "you want me to move out, I can't get an apt". And that's where I pussed out, I kinda just let it go and didn't say it again. I pursued a little, but was able to laugh about a few things the dog was doing and keep a little smile on my face somehow.

She tried to give me a hug 3 times and I just kept backing away and told her I didn't want her pity, I want a hug from my wife. Then she wanted to take my puppy to sleep with her in the other room. My wonderful dog proceeded to piss on her pillow so she used that as an invite to come back in the master. No, so I was going to help her change the sheets but she got mouthy and I locked her out of the master b/c she was being rude. So then she got ruder and honestly I added fuel to the fire there. I also was dumb arguing about bills. So I need to 180 there too and just keep my cool so I can just think first next time. Should have just went and helped changed the sheets and been done with it.

She is sad about the marriage and sad about lying to me again. Said she wants it to work but wants to be happy. I just validated there. Obviously this is all about her though.

She called me this morning and texted asking if I have a few minutes, so I'm trying to figure out what to say. I think I'll tell her I'll be home later if she wants to talk, but she has a bag packed and probably wasn't planning on coming home. Oh well.