For those of you more early on in your sitch, I want to say that GAL activities have been the key to whatever progress I have made. They have been so crucial in establishing my own life, apart from the MR, and breaking free of the codependency that I suffered. At first I was doing them while still constantly thinking about the W and the MR, but I forced myself to keep doing them anyway. Now, my thoughts will occasionally wander back to the sitch, but it is no longer the default state. Being active, being around friends, being in nature, sharing good food and conversation - those are the things that fill me up. Reclaim your own life, your own sense of self by going out in the world and being active and engaging with it.
Yes, very well said! GAL is so important, it can't be stressed enough. It's the hardest thing any of us have ever done at first, to make yourself leave when you just want to roll into a ball and rock in the corner while weeping. I read people here making all these excuses about why they can't GAL and I just think "oh yeah, I remember telling myself those things too." I would tell myself all of that, and then make myself go out and GAL anyway. Hated it at first, then was ambivalent about it, then started enjoying it, then embraced it. It truly is the path to recovery!
