MamaB, I was drawn to your thread because you see yourself as a mama first. You have 2 wonderful children that deserve the best in life. I am sorry you are here and are going through this, I was in your shoes too. Dealing with BD postpartum just makes it beyond painful according to me. If you think about it doesnt it also make our WHs extra cruel? We still pine for these runaways who seem to be in a parallel universe. Ask yourself if your kids deserve this, if they need a father who is failing them to give a happy family. At this point, he is beneath your love. Make him work for it not the other way round. Until then you have those beautiful children to give all the love to. You can do this, one hour at a time and then one day at a time. Show your WH what he is losing.