Nic, i actually read your convo with him the same way as Ovr, asking about commute to his work from your building, maybe he was temp checking. Trying to see if you react, I think you handled it pretty well. The truth is you will have no control over him moving into the vicinity, in my sitch WH is introducing D3 to his 'friend' on video chats in less than a month of moving out. I have brought it up with him that I am not okay with it but again he continues doing it and i have absolutely no control. All I can do is provide stability and love to my Ds while they are with me. As hard as it is, try seeing positives to him moving to your building, your D will have a father she never had around, you will get some time for yourself. Be sure to talk about specific visitations as soon as it is finalized that he is going to move to the same city. Your D needs stability and it is healthy for her to see her dad more often. I feel for you when you say you do not want to be 'excluded' when your D is with him. I went through this too, I cried my eyes out the first 2 weeks he came and took the kids away. From the third week on, I am always ready myself to leave and GAL as soon as he takes the kids. it could be as simple as going to the gym or getting my eyebrows done, any option is better than staying home alone and pining for the children. In 7 weeks' time I actually have a schedule set for as soon as he takes the kids too. Hey when life gives WH, we got to make the most of it right. You are a strong girl, a wonderful mother and a great person. Enrich lives of those people who actually want to be a part of your life too. Hugs.
