I agree with Steve about not revealing the board to your W. I think I understand where you are coming from, but I don't think it's a good idea to show her your tool box. Both of you are still in the healing process and she will not have the same enthusiasm after reading what has been said in your threads...….and believe me, she would read every single word. I really feel it would open fresh wounds.

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The only thing where my W tends to "slip" a little still is in the remorse department. She still gets little spells where something will be really good with us, and then she'll get a sad look and hug me or cry a little and say "I am so, so, sorry... and I am so, so thankful that you have forgiven me and that we are together"....




So.....what does remorse look like to you?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!