Thanks for the kind words! It was a lot of fun. Really simple, old-fashioned, but very nice.
Post was getting kinda long or i coulda added more.
Had some really important realizations this past weekend that i went into in some depth on "burned" 's thread, hopefully for his benefit, but maybe i can synopsize here: Just how valuable it is to "Be your own person" and to be fully confident and fulfilled in your own right (and with God, if you are, as am I, so disposed), and how that is so freeing in terms of how you interact with your spouse or significant other. When you are without that worry... without the walking on eggshells or worrying what you can and cant tell the other person or that they might become mad or might even leave you... it frees you up to have such an open and fulfilling relationship it is just... amazing. My W and i had so much fun this past weekend just being in each others's company, and we really did... nothing special. It was just the interaction between the two of us... two strong, confident, complete individuals contributing to an amazing relationship.
Also the joy (and excitement) that two such people in a relationship take in each others' accomplishments, even the small ones. I won second prize in a hot sauce contest and you'd of thought from the way my W treated me that i'd won the lottery. She was so excited (in more ways than one) by the whole experience. But it wasn't just the winning, it was the being there, and the excitement I showed, and her seeing me "in my element" hobnobbing and laughing and joking with the other people at the event. And it's been the same for me, hearing about her taking charge of project at work and sticking up for her girls that work under her... and getting a favorable response and how it energized her. Just... really neat.
The only thing where my W tends to "slip" a little still is in the remorse department. She still gets little spells where something will be really good with us, and then she'll get a sad look and hug me or cry a little and say "I am so, so, sorry... and I am so, so thankful that you have forgiven me and that we are together".... and for my part i guess i still have some pain when i think of the A, but it is fading, and each new success in our own relationship helps that pain recede.
Welcome back, again!!!
H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3