You really can't mind read as to why he was pleasant, temp checking, then moody, angry, and now seems content. Trust me, he is on his own roller coaster and will also keep things close to his vest. You have no idea where his mind is at, how things are with OW, and what he will do next. So there is no point in trying to make sense of it. He is on his own path and you are just an obstacle right now. It is strange and hard to make sense of, and even I don't totally understand it. I got pretty close a year ago when I started getting into some wayward thinking and decided my M was over. During those months, I didn't post much here, but I was not focused on my H and his feelings. I just thought I wanted out.

So how did I act when I started to let go of H after BD? Well, I tried to just follow Sandi's rules. I decided in my mind that if we were getting D, then I would act the part now. How do (should people) act after they had been D for several years but still share kids? Well, they don't need to be friends and pretend to be a family. They can be civil. We set up the schedule for kids and bills in a way that required minimal interactions. When we did interact, it was limited to the topic, clear and concise, and void of emotions. Somewhat businesslike. Boring might be a word. So, when we interacted that is all he got from me. When he saw me coming and going? Well, I was looking going and obvi enjoying other things and people. He saw me really moving on without him. ... and he got to be the jerk that left his W and home for sleazy OW. Trust me, that doens't feel too good to a man.

Blu

“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela