So as the months rolled on and I got better at biting my tongue, and holding my fingers, and stopped ignoring him just to be a bish. I just started to let go. I got much better at GAL too. Eventually I allowed myself to actually enjoy the GAL activities. I started to let go more and more. In the mean time, on his own journey, he more and more realized that OW was all wrong (she was and is just all wrong).
Only a foolish man will walk away from a beautiful and strong woman. Be HER. Because she doesn't want a fool.
Blu
Blu,
When you got better at biting your tongue, holding your fingers and stopped ignoring him, what DID you do? I am very good at ignoring him via text, and then I feel like I just come off as petty and angry. What kind of responses did you start giving him once you started to let go and stop saying the aggressive things, or ignoring?
Ive never really said the "I hate you's". I think I have in person, while yelling through tears at how much he has hurt me, but it has been a long time since anything like that. He actually told ME he hates me 2 weeks ago when I called him out on OW. In between his denial, he said how hard his life is right now while abiding by my rules (WHAT?!), and that im just making it harder by accusing him of OW. Then he said "I HATE YOU!", and I responded saying "you dont hate me. If I dont hate you, then theres no way you hate me." Probably not the right thing to say, but it was a long drawn out convo in text that he was trying to shift focus from him and OW to anything else. like me making his life so hard right now, (seriously? I asked him to not live here if hes talking to other women, thats literally ALL ive done.) Then he told me he was leaving town, etc. Never did, and hasnt brought it up since.
I really felt like he was such a mess, and now this last week its like hes all of a sudden content. He was crying at the drop of a hat around me, he was texting me when he would leave, he was angry as hell, he was just seeming like a mess! And now he all of a sudden just seems calm and ok. Agreeing with me on things for our daughter, which is nice, and just content. And his content calmness scares me more than anything, imagine that! Its like in this last week he has found peace or something in his new life. He is just seeming super calm and ok and not contacting me, nothing.
So I feel like my only opportunities of anything are in the interactions we have from here on out. And I dont really know how I should respond to things. So I am just curious how you started to respond once letting go of the anger, ignoring, and "I hate you texts".
