Limbo stinks...I am in similar sitch. WW won't leave, can't afford to set up a household on her own and I am paying all the bills at home. She makes decent money but she has dug a huge dept hole for herself and funding her other life. She has said the same things to me that you get from your W and I know that in her fog she believes she is in love with OM but I have seen a lot more bickering between them recently as I have given her the space to see what she really wants. They usually find that the same problems will arise regardless of the partner and that it is their issues that have caused the true problems in their lives not us.

I do not mention A, I do not mention R, stick to only kids and finances if need be. They have to go it alone. Yes limbo is brutal but I always see it if they knew 100% that they wanted out they would find a way instead of having to see us on a daily basis to some extent.

H-50
W-48
T-19
M -18
S23, S14
BD - 5/9/2018
OM discovered 5/10/2018

In house sep - 8/18/2018
Rope drop 2/15/2019
R'ing since 3/15/2019