My WAS - looking help and thanks in advance PART 4

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Thanks y'all. Just thinking about what to do next, I'm not really sure. I really appreciate all of your comments and advice, and I will take any further perspective any of you have to offer.

Joejoe1, is moving forward mean just completely acting single again? And NC? I'm not really that emotional about it this time. No tears, no bulge in my throat, no pain in my belly. Just a little anxiety but it leaves really quick. I'm really thinking about telling her to sign the title on our nice car (she drives it all the time, it's $1,000/month payment) and packing her little truck with her stuff and telling her to go somewhere else.

Nicole, I don't think it'd be good to meet that gal. I'd like to, but I just don't want to put myself in that situation b/c it could just lead to bad things like an affair of my own. Although maybe it's no different than when I go out and women are flirting with me like she was. I do kind of want to tell her to move out. That's one of the worst parts, is hearing noise and thinking she's coming home and that is just stressful.

Burned, what is post LRT in your mind?

Davide, what boundary and consequence would you suggest? I just can't talk to her or see her if she is with someone else, and I told her that back in July when she "came back" those 2 times. And I won't be lied to. I think if I see her I just tell her you are such a liar, a cheater, and an abuser and I won't continue on with this.

Steve, any others have any advice on what ACTION to take here?