You are wanting to go to your kids' college to tell them what's going on? Seems like the separation rules are simple:
1. Person who wants to separate needs to GTFO. 2. Bills 50/50 3. No cake-eating.
Yes, I want to tell the kids in person. Last week he said he doesn't see why we have to go there together. That I could talk to them and he could at another time. I want adamant that I would not budge on this that we should do it together in the best interest of the kids. Now he's saying he won't go this weekend "in advance" and that's that!, (even though he will probably move out next week). I left it alone until we talk tonight.
I agree on the 3 basic rules, but how do you monitor the No cake-eating? Maybe it's a matter of see what happens and go from there. All I can control is my own actions, and I will not waver on my integrity and values. In principle H agreed to no dating but he didn't sound too convincing.
