H and I are scheduled to have "the talk" tonight about firm plans for him to move out. I'm quite nervous about it. Both our kids are away at college and I said we should go there to talk to them about it this weekend. He got very pissy about it and completely refused, saying he doesn't think we need to do it "in advance". I had a message ready to send back (all this is through e-mail), but I erased it. Why fuel the fire? I wonder if he is fearful of telling them? Trying to control the situation better? Hard to tell. Last week I mentioned I thought we should have a written agreement of the "rules" of separation. He balked at that too.
Anyway, I'm in for a difficult week with the imminent separation. I'm a little uncertain what points I need to remain firm on. Anyone who has gone through a controlled and agreed on separation that has some input I would really appreciate it! In the meantime, I'm still pursuing GAL. Have a few things planned this week! Detachment is another story, and I've got work to do on this. I've fallen off the wagon so many times!
