My wife initiated the talk about Divorce, but I told her I would only talk about it over the phone and not text since she is 1500 miles away.
We talked today. It was extremely civil, yet she sounded extremely down and sad. She should be. She knows she is in the wrong. We talked about next steps, but nothing about recon. I told her where I stood, and if she wants to move forward, she will need to actually file. Told her I would have no part in helping since I’m against it but willing to let her go if that’s what she wants.
Also brought up the things she was saying about me. She denied it and said she said things but nothing of what I heard. Don’t buy any of it. She also mentioned she felt pressured by her family to enter into marriage, but again, it’s another cop out. She’s even resorting to throwing her family under the bus. She did share some new news... she said on the day of the wedding she was scared of getting married and put it off as wedding day jitters. She also said when her dad prayed for her, she cried hard, but not tears of joy or happiness. To summarize, she isn’t capable of living away from her family. We got engaged then the only family she had in our town moved back home.
DB is still what I need to do, but in my case, I really don’t see any hope. I laid it all out there, so if she wants to be a single woman there is nothing I can do. Surprisingly the convo makes me feel better about my sitch. No longer blaming myself. I will not let her craziness impact me. I just chalk it up to something that is completely out of my control. I accept divorce is the likely outcome, and I’m at peace.
