Not sure DB is working? AnotherStander help!

[Jlh]

Is it considered cake eating when your spouse leaves the house, yet chats it up happily over the phone to ask what me and our son did together for fun. I don't think I should keep him filled in on our fun times together since H left us and the house. I don't know if I should just tell him flat out that I want to keep conversations about our son strictly business or just do it and let him figure it out on his own.

Also he came over a few nights ago to talk after just emailing me paperwork and then not wanting to discuss it verbally or in person. He uses email and text to discuss this important stuff yet runs when I want to discuss it in person like an adult. I know it's not part of detaching but I asked him to come over to discuss this paperwork he has. He cried and was teary eyed the entire talk telling me how he looks at pictures and wishes we could be like the better times again. He says he left the house so quickly because the house only reminds him of how he hurt me so badly. He admitted that he has some porn addiction thing going on. He seems to be in a very bad place and needs some help. He says he's done grieving his brother who passed away last year at this time and hes not addicted to porn and he's fine. He also told me that he works and sleeps and that's about it. He tells me that he has no more feelings for me yet he's crying and wishing for things to be better again as he looks at pics of us he has at his place. He looks miserable, hair needs a cut, he needs to shave, etc. He told me that he has no OW and it's only him. The next day as he picked up and dropped off our son in the evening, he seemed lighter and smiled more, even stopping to play with the cat.

But yesterday when he called to say goodnight to our son, he was very grumpy with me when I asked him to come over to look at our son's broken headboard. It was like pulling teeth to get him to talk about it and he had any excuse to not come over. It was for his kid, not me.

I'm seeing a lawyer this week to go over the paperwork and see what it all entails. I have questions on moving forward as well without him.