Husband cheated, left, trying SO HARD to DB

[Ready2Change]

You are on two parallel paths. One path is D. The other is attracting H back to a committed R.

One is a legal agreement between two people. The other is a personal bond. Keep these two separate in your mind.

Again, you can not control his actions. You can control how you respond.

How long do I allow this freedom and for him to continue this relationship with OW before I just say I want a D?

Actions speak louder than words. Do not tell him you want a D. Get yourself educated on D. Time is on your side as long as you are taking actions. Your goal is to understand the D process better that H. Right now, I do not believe that is the case. If H has stared the paper work, he has done some homework.

He didn’t come see daughter last night because his friend hurt himself on their job and he said he had to take him to the ER. Then he sent me a pic of his friend in the hospital and told me what happened, but I know he went on with his night out drinking with the OW.

Yes. He will use EVERY excuse he can. He could have came over afterwards.

This is where I believe you should have parenting time INTERRUPTING his play time. HIS Friday and Sat nights should be tied up parenting while you take care of you.

...hold back the tears. I miss my H so much.

We understand. Let the tears flow while you are alone. Morn the lose of the old R. HUGS