In Sandi's rules it says never give up no matter how dark someone's sitch may get. I'm having a really tough time with this as I still want to have hope.
But in having Hope....isn't that causing me to have expectations? I remain hopeful and lean on my faith strongly, but I feel as this is creating an expectation of an outcome.
I see a lot of posters who's situations turned around from the brink of D and have reconciled.
IRL I have connected with some folks who's marriages were crumbled only to be rectified over time. I do believe that god works through people and brings folks into your lives at key moments in life. Just crazy, last night I took an uber downtown and the lady who was driving and I struck up a conversation in which it led to talk about our MR's. I opened up about my sitch and she then reveals that her and her husband actually went through with a divorce several years back only to come back together 18 months after D. This is the 3rd such occurrence in which random strangers and I have connected only to discover their situations were able to be turned around and marriages are stronger for having gone through it.
All of this only stirs up more Hope for my situation.
How can one still have Hope....but without the expectations?
Me - 38 W-37 S6 M 10 years T 13yrs BD 3/18 W moves out 4/18 W files 7/18
