My main fear is losing the house in a D because I can't find the extra 120k I'd need to buy W out. If I keep the house then I could keep 50/50 custody kids. If I lose the house then I won't be able to afford to live in the local area and so I'll lose the kids. Anyone have 120K to save my family?
Your family isn't your house or money it's a relationship with a person who respects you and trusts you and loves you.
You use the word family but you mean everything that comes with it... house and money and stability.
Just because you act like a good man or husband does not mean your romantic relationship all that is built on will actually work. Which it hasnt. The relationship is toxic and needs to end.
Im really confused why you keep referring to saving the whole package i.e. home etc.. when the person who makes that possible doesn't want a relationship anymore. Its a fantasy you keep telling yourself to avoid the harsh reality of the situation.
From the start i have said in my opinion you are barking up the wrong tree and i still havent changed my opinion.
If you can't afford the house you need look outside the area. Those are the facts. You can either deal with those or continue to hope that an angel is going to come down, magically repair everything and make someone fall back in love with you and want to erase the past. Its not going to happen unfortunately.
Bit by bit this is going to start taking things from you unless you get your game face on and quick.
