Gordie 22 eight months after she dropped the D

[Gordie]

DNJ and Job

Thank you as always

This is such a supportive community

Praise and encouragement from you means a lot

I consider you very wise souls


I just read the Freckle6 success story praised by Roist

She reconciled after separation of four years and divorce

Ironically they were piecing when the d was finalized

She expressed a few things I have been feeling

1 a long period of having a platonic relationship with a lot of uncertainty

I find myself wanting more but know this cannot be rushed

W has to go at her own pace

I can hope but not expect

2 recognition that wounds heal but that there will always be scars

You cannot pretend the bad stuff never happened

Better to acknowledge that reality and move forward

3 a sober minded view of marriage and commitment

This recognition of reality as DNJ would say as harsh as it is

Reality is that either party can end a relationship any day

Freckle6 says they reconciled and even had another baby

But that she will never marry again

It is just a piece of paper

And that piece of paper will not keep anyone who wants to leave from doing so


I have had all of these feelings too

And glad to know I am not the only one